Redditors are discussing how a lot issues have modified over the previous 20 years by way of norms round rudeness and disrespect. Customs governing rudeness, particularly the extra arbitrary ones, have all the time shifted with every new era, however new expertise appears to be accelerating these modifications.

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Also, we now have a website known as Reddit the place we are able to discuss it.

“What’s something that was considered rude 20 years ago but is normal now?” requested u/jakubbog.

Indeed, most of the solutions Redditors got here up with contain the brand new expertise that arose throughout the final 20 years. Smart telephones and the web changing into necessary in folks’s lives modified loads, together with what folks think about regular by way of human interplay.

Numerous of us introduced up how simple it’s to vanish from one another’s presence or lives now that we accomplish that far more interacting through textual content and chat. Today, we regularly finish our conversations with out saying goodbye, and ghosting is so prevalent that we hardly complain about it anymore.

Some of those modifications, nonetheless, look like optimistic ones. There actually was no good motive to bar folks with seen tattoos from employment, and perhaps it’s higher than we discuss issues like politics and cash extra now. It may be uncomfortable for some, however discussing salaries helps to shut earnings gaps between demographic teams.

Also, with issues as unhealthy as they’re now, can we please let ourselves exit in pajamas? Talk about consolation.

Whether you approve of those altering norms or not, it’s all the time fascinating to match the current day to the previous. Just don’t let these 18 examples provide you with an excessive amount of time whiplash.

1. Disappearing from the chat

“Not writing ‘brb’ when stepping away from the computer while chatting online or ending the convo without saying bye.” —u/Bento_Fox

2. Recording strangers with out consent

“To some people it’s now normal to film or take pics of strangers, then spread them around like it’s nothing.”

“Rescue services have literally done campaigns telling people not to film or photograph accident scenes. The fact some people need to be reminded about how it would suck to have your, or a loved one’s, emergency spread uncontrollably as entertainment, is a chilling thought.” —u/Masseyrati80

3. Screening your calls

“Not answering the phone every single time someone calls. I think I probably pick up 10% of the phone calls I receive.”

“I have an outgoing message letting people know that I don’t answer unsolicited calls from numbers I don’t recognize, so they need to leave a message and I’ll get back to them.” —u/UnicornVoodooDoll

4. Discussing cash

“Talking openly about money like salaries, rent, or even how much you spent on something used to be considered really impolite or “taboo” in informal dialog, however now it’s changing into regular and even inspired as folks push for transparency, truthful pay, and breaking down monetary stigma.” —u/Budget-Till5824

5. Visible tattoos and various piercings at work

“I did sh*twork at an accounting firm for several years and saw that one change in real time. They had a no visible tattoos rule and got rid of it once they realized it was a losing battle and they couldn’t afford to shut out a significant segment of the younger generation.” —u/GreenZebra23

6. Dogs in shops

“Bringing pet dogs into restaurants and grocery stores. Watched someone’s toy something take a dump in the pharmacy aisle at Costco right after an employee finished mopping. Why is this just accepted?” —u/Trickycoolj

7. Ignoring the doorbell

“Not answering the door. I legit freeze, stay quiet, and check my porch camera before even thinking about answering the door these days, if I am not expecting someone. And I only started doing that because I have elderly neighbors who occasionally drop by, both for emergencies, and to give us food.” —u/AtheneSchmidt

8. Talking politics

“We were taught that it was rude to speak about religion and politics, but what we should have been teaching is how to speak about religion or politics without being rude.” —u/bmadarie

9. Ghosting and flaking

“People, for the most part didn’t ever do either of those things unless it was a super good reason. Like with flaking out, it wasn’t even considered flaking out. People would pretty much only cancel plans at the last minute if they had some kind of emergency or something unexpected came up.”

“And ghosting afaik people only did that sort of thing if someone was being a creep or there was a big argument or whatever.” —u/idratherchangemyold1

10. Dumping somebody over the telephone

“Breaking up with someone via text. It’s still rude af for a more serious relationship if you ask me. But it is unfortunately very normalized.” —u/girlnextdoor480

11. Checking your telephone throughout dialog

“Two decades ago, pulling out your phone and looking at it while talking to someone was seen as a sign that you were bored or that the other person was unimportant. Now, it’s so normal that most people don’t even bat an eye.” —u/Jasmine_kaity

12. Joking as an alternative of by no means forgetting

“9/11 jokes were rude at that time. It was too soon. Now, there are adults who were born after 9/11. They don’t care so much.” —u/Overwatcher_Leo

13. Free-range kiddos

“The kids running wild in public places like restaurants and stores is so much more prevalent. I was a fairly permissive mom, except when it came to social graces and manners. Kids can be kids but not when they’re infringing on other people’s space in public places.”

“Ime, rude kids grow up to be rude adults, and this was not tolerated 40 years ago.” —u/halfpint51

14. Treating employees poorly

“Being rude to service workers, I swear I see it everywhere I go now. Especially in a post-covid world where everyone seems to have lost their manners.” —u/Lovely_Quartz

15. Using distractions at dinner

“Reading the newspaper or watching TV during mealtime. Now everyone even my gran (who is an old school etiquette lady) uses their phone while watching tv during meal gathering time!” —u/ViewsByPlacer

16. Wearing jammies exterior

“When did it become acceptable to wear pajamas everywhere?”

“As a child, while my grandmother didn’t approve, you could wear jeans and a tee shirt most places. I absolutely wasn’t allowed to wear jeans to church, not even for the social get togethers. People used to throw on a tee shirt & shorts when coming off the beach or out of a pool.”

17. Swears

“Cursing in public. It has always been there, but it’s way more prevalent now. I know a handful of parents that don’t care how dirty their kids mouths are.” —u/sonofamusket

18. Being on the telephone within the toilet

“Using your cell phone in public bathrooms. I find it incredibly intrusive. I started noticing people doing it around 2015. I just want to pee in peace. Plus, who wants to be on the phone with someone and hear toilets flushing?” —u/vaguelybombastic

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