Millennials began sharing tales about how their dad and mom don’t really know them as individuals when prompted in a Reddit thread. On the subreddit r/Millennials, one Redditor posted a screenshot of a tweet that hit somewhat too arduous with this era.

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“Our parents really don’t know us,” stated X person @Misfitdree. “Sad part is they’re convinced they do.”

“Any other millennials feel this a bit too hard?” requested u/Flashy_Present_8488.

Although some do have good relationships with their dad and mom, far too many others do certainly really feel this. Most millennials have dad and mom from the Baby Boomer era, which has a repute for being a wee bit self-involved.

They additionally weren’t typically raised to understand real emotional expression, particularly in terms of unhappiness and different indicators of vulnerability. As a consequence, it will appear, quite a lot of their youngsters thought they needed to current their dad and mom with a persona, hiding their actual selves.

More tragic had been the instances of Boomer dad and mom who put no actual effort into attending to know their youngsters. Somehow, regardless of all proof, a lot of them are satisfied that they know their kids higher than they know themselves.

The penalties embrace these 19 Reddit commenters with tales and emotions about how their dad and mom don’t know them a lot in any respect.

1. Surface-level relationships

“I don’t think my parents actually want to really know me. They’re pretty happy just keeping things surface level.” —u/1radgirl

2. A uncared for filmmaker

“I made a feature film, and neither of my parents asked anything much about it or asked to see it. If my kid made a film, I would be over the moon excited to see it… It’s so crazy our parents don’t care at all except me showing up for Easter and sitting there.” —u/HunterRose05

3. Never actually interested by your child

“I was finishing up washing some pots and pans when I got a call from my mom. ‘Sorry for the noise, ma, I’m just putting some pans in the dish rack.’ ‘ Oh wooooow, you’re becoming quite the little chef!’ ‘I’m 39 and live alone, Mom, what do you think I do for food?’ ‘Oh… I guess I never thought about it.’” —u/burntbeanwater

4. 22 years of black boots

“My mother recently took notice of my boots and commented on them. ‘Doc Martens?! Wow, that’s unexpected. I would never think black boots like that to be your style.’”

“I’ve been exclusively wearing black combat boots/docs as my footwear of choice since I turned 14. I’m about to turn 36.” —u/ohdatpoodle

5. Know thyself

“When I was like 10 or 11, my mom told me she knows me better than I know myself. That’s when I realized she doesn’t know me at all.” —u/530TooHot

6. Hidden selves

“They confirmed us as children that being us wasn’t acceptable. So we hid us. As we turned adults and left residence, we let ourselves out. Our dad and mom are satisfied this new model of us is the faux.

It hit me someday actually arduous after I realized I do know so many tales about my dad and mom’ childhoods, however my dad and mom solely know the tales after we had been collectively. Which, as a latch key double revenue family, was weekends and evenings.” —u/MrsTurnPage

7. So many owls

“Every gift I’ve ever gotten from family members for the last 20 years is owl-themed because when I was 12, I had an (undiagnosed) ADHD-fueled obsession with them and that’s literally the only thing they seem to remember about me.

I’ve given specific lists of things that I want or need for my birthday or Christmas or wedding, but nope. Owls.” —u/The-Hive-Queen

8. Favorite meals

“My favorite food since I was five has been mac and cheese, like I have a distinct memory of being eight and my aunt telling me there will be mac and cheese there to convince me to go.

My father tried to make a big deal about how they had made my favorite food during Christmas as proof of how much they care during reconciliation therapy. They made Shepard pie.” —u/SandiegoJack

9. Reaching out

“I finished reaching out to household first and waited to see how lengthy it will take anybody to succeed in out to me first. Outside of household group video chats for main holidays and the birthday of the one baby in my household, it was over 8 months earlier than anybody known as me, and that was solely as a result of my mom needed one thing from me.

I used to be totally blamed for not calling anybody and accused of not wanting something to do with the household anymore, too. It was a somewhat miserable experiment, however the outcomes didn’t shock me in any respect.” —u/StarintheShadows

10. Happy faces solely

“Only to the point of crushing any dreams and ambitions, and not enough to actually understand where I’m coming from. If it isn’t all sunshine and puppy dogs, then I’m just being a burden and weak, doesn’t matter if my chronic pain has drastically changed my life, I’m just a lazy, good-for-nothing ‘dumba** kid.’” —u/TillaciousG

11. Shocking revelations

“My parents were openly shocked when I came out as gay. They never saw it coming, but always bragged about how close we were and how they knew me better than anyone else.” —u/killey2011

12. Tell her what she is aware of

“I had a really sad and sudden realization of how little my mom thought of me. She was telling me what it’s like as a woman in the military. I am a veteran with over a decade of service. When I told her my reality as a woman veteran, she said, ‘That’s not what they said on the news.’” —u/justLittleJess

13. Not that tough to recollect

“I’ve been in the same industry for almost 15 years and my parents still have no idea what I do (I’m an event producer).” —u/fuckYOUswan

14. Sports and climate solely

“My dad is stuck in the ’60s mentality. Any time I try to talk to him, his advice is so outdated it’s laughable. We stick to sports/weather now.” —u/Hot_Astronaut6027

15. Non-stop speaking

“I can’t have a real conversation with mine because she always talks at you, then when you finally ninja a word in she’s just waiting to go okay but and talk about herself.”

“I’ve timed it and one time she went 50 minutes talking at everyone and nobody actually listened and had their own conversations at the restaurant.” —u/hanaboushi

16. Disgusted

“I used to try and talk to them about my life and interests and stuff, but they always reacted with something that felt like vague disgust, so not anymore.” —u/someboringlady

17. Just since you do it doesn’t imply you adore it

“Parents definitely still see me as a kid. I was jokingly telling my Mom how I hate math, and now I do it all day at work. And she looks at me and says, ‘What? You love math.’ Apparently, she forgot about how much of my school years I spent grounded because my math and English scores were s*** since I just didn’t do the homework or essays.” —u/Biggapotamus

18. Who requested for ribbons?

“They gave me so many ribbons! Now they make fun of me, saying I need a ribbon for everything.” —u/TLiones

19. As lengthy as you don’t want cash

“I’ve never really felt like my parents were interested in who I really am as a person. They show next to no interest in my art, writing, political opinions, or identity. Mostly, what it seems like is they just want to make sure I’m not so fucked up that I will end up needing money. Apart from that, at times it seems like I’m just there to play a minor role.” —u/DiscotopiaACNH

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